Adoption - Start

As a couple ensure you think as much as you can for Adoption. Its a great decision but also requires lots of courage and encouragement.

I would advise to keep this decision to the self for a while and slowly and gradually convey to your immmediate family members.

Simultaneously, search all the websites esp CARA www.adoptionindia.nic.in for more info on Adoption. However, with respect to NRI limited information is available

On my way for Adoption

Its been a while that I have taken time to see my blog.

Me and my husband have decided for the adoption. We need your prayers and hope we can do it!!

Since, we are Non Indian Residents, I will be posting my step by step procedure for the adoption process, hope my blogs helps someone.

Home Work

It was difficult to accept the infertility. There aren’t any words to describe the trauma or shock of this truth.

We decided we will head for ICSI, but were not sure with whom.

That’s exactly where an internet is handy tool. I checked with my local gynecologist for referral. She suggested a couple of names. A simple Google search popped up with details. I went on surfing about the information (assuming it’s reliable and most case it will be) on the doctor, team, experience, credentials, etc.

I sent emails to all of the doctors and some of them responded back too!!! It’s great to see how the doctor connects to the prospective patients. I am really impressed with the details and accurate information on the email. Trust me that me confident about the doctor.

I read lots of articles on the procedure and treatment; cost associated with it and the success rates.

Information I looked in their websites:

• Experience of the doctor
• qualification of the doctors
• Credentials of their clinic
• experience and profile of the team (remember embryologist are one who gets your embryos hatched)
• number of babies born
• technical devices they have

Information I asked through emails:

• I gave my basic details
• I asked which treatment is going to help me
• How much time is required (I must say a doctor gave me detailed daily plan for a month over email!!)
• how much it will cost (approx)
• any test to be conducted before seeing them

These things helped me a lot to understand what ICSI is about and knowing the doctors. The main task still remains - selecting the doctor and cycle of visit (fund wasn't a major constraint for me)

Adoption: Another view

When I think of "Adoption", I wonder 'why would somebody leave her baby?' and then...

... if 'she' had decided to leave the baby (for whatever reason), than I feel sorry, sorry for the baby.

For the time baby would have been in the womb of 'her', the baby

• must be apathy of her birth mom
• must be under the constant 'abondon' feeling from the birth mom
• feeling of neglect, hate...

Will I be able to give the baby so much love and affection that can overcome the mistreatment that baby has received?

Yes, I firmly believe "Love cures, love heals..." perhaps over the time with my love I can give the much needed affection to the little one.

Adoption or Exchange?

Its easier said than done… and yes the quote applies to “Adoption” too.
After three unsuccessful ICSI cycle, my doctor said than you can try for adoption. Yes, I wanted to adopt somebody someday but not due to my inability. I always wanted to adopt as my willingness and not as my inability.

Advise as they say is the most free available (unwanted) thing was given to me by many. They said adopt, it will help you and make somebody’s life, even lord Krishna was adopted by Yashodha mata, etc.

But there is difference, Yashodha Mata had a baby in her womb, she knew she will have her baby, seldome she knew that the babies were exchanged after they were born. For her, she was mother may be Krishna or some other baby.

The entire epic is more of “exchange of babies” than “adoption”.

Any thoughts or comments?